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What is the meaning of misunderstood? According to Mac’s dictionary the meaning of the said word is not correctly understood, or not properly and sympathetically appreciated.

While I’m writing this I am listening to Robbie William’s song and guess what the title is… MISUNDERSTOOD

For the past few days, I have been thinking about what happened for the last 5 months.

Fade in effect… Flashback…

Spain is a very beautiful country, it offers a wide of variety of spices from food for the soul, a very enriching culture and I must say one of the worlds most influential when it comes to arts.

I know you are asking what’s the relevance?

Well, being here wasn’t easy nor hard, it entails a lot of food to enrich my soul, updating myself on how to adjust with the culture and to smell the every word of the true essence of arts.

FOOD.

I am lucky to taste more than 100 plates of food with different spices from the land of Toro.

Food, wherein sometimes sweet, sour, spicy and salty.

As you know I am running towards to my 6 months here in the restaurant working as a camarero (waiter) so I had the first tongue in tasting authentic Spanish food. I must say they’re different from our food back home, no tuyo, adobo, halo-halo etc.

Reality check…. In a little span of time being here, I ate on different plates of life, and I am glad that most of them were very pleasurable experiences, but sometimes like food it needs a little bit of sal (salt), pimiento (pepper) or aceite (oil) for you to appreciate it.

I compare people here to food, why? Because sometimes or not most often, if you like what you are eating, it becomes your favorite and if you don’t finish what you are eating it only means you are full or you lost your appetite (sorry to sound rude, but its true)

Like food I learned how to trust my taste bud, when I experienced the first taste of intrigues and that is because of the famous word “ENVY”, but as what my siobes been telling me “brush that off my shoulder” and that’s what I am doing it right now.

After reading “Tuesdays with Morrie” I learned that detaching from emotions especially the bad ones will not do good to you and I am thankful for that because I think I am getting ready to start a new life, which I think I am good at…. Starting a new one.

I don’t know why what made me feel so happy about the idea of change, new and beginning, maybe because for me it’s a challenge or running away from something, I don’t know but as of now I am elated about embracing the new challenges, new life, new love, new books to read, new meet ups, its really exciting that you will have something new to look forward to.

CULTURE.

I am a neophyte in the OFW world so to speak… I am a bit cultured shock upon learning the behaviour of many individuals here.

Thanks to my mentors Ed, Carlos and Rodney for showing me the idea of how, when, where and what to do in embracing the real essence of culture, wherever and whenever you might be or you are in, in a very PRADA way!

Good thing I know how to sashay the runway!

Thanks to Gucci, Prada, Versace, LV and Valentino! I somehow prepared myself to accept it and they have no choice but to, deal with it.

ARTS.

Geographically speaking Spain is one of the Worlds most influential when it comes to arts, unlike others “UMAARTE LANG” pardon my French!

Muchas Gracias España for enriching my right and left brain, in enhancing my taste buds when it comes to food, culture and arts, (and my favourite so far are the works of “GAUDI”)

PEOPLE.

Being envious with other person is not bad as long as you will use it to inspire you to strive to be a better person and not the opposite way. Being nice will not guarantee you that people will be nice too. I am sad because the saying “Don’t do to others, what you don’t like others do unto you” is being (sigh) MISUNDERSTOOD.

So I guess what I am trying to convey to you all is that in every road we take we will meet people who will be significant in our lives.

It will make us strong and wiser may it be in our choices of food to eat, being part of a certain culture and appreciating arts. Don’t let anyone fooled you with a bunch of bulloxed stuff.

NEW-BE.

Its 2008, and I told myself I will be “Nicely Harsh” this time. When I see things are good, I will challenge myself to be better, even if it takes me to Paris just to be with my MIMINESS (my ultimate Mare), to New Zealand with my MARC-Y (my ultimate super friend) and of course the pearl of the Orient… Philippines with my dear gorgeous super best friend DEE (the born DEE-va) and my only two-in-one (no need to explain) Ate Minty.

Most of all my favorite siobes in the whole world, Ritchele (the Rich diva), Liza (the Cool-Single-Mother diva), Liz (the fashionable diva), Tutet (the Loyal diva), Layden (the Forever diva) and Mitch (the Word of Wisdom diva).

Thank you very much for being with me all through this time, I love you all!

Hasta Luego!

JRD

Anything can happen, when you take a chance
it will happen….
Anything can happen, if you will believe
it will happen….
Anything can happen, sometimes we just need to sacrifice
it will happen….
Anything can happen, today you’re in tomorrow you’re out
So make the most out of it!

just wanna share this song “SOMEDAY” by Nina

Someday you’re gonna realize
One day you’ll see this though y eyes
By then I won’t even be there
I’ll be happy somewhere
Even if I cared
I know you don’t really see my worth
You think you’re the last guy on earth
Well I’ve got news for you
I know I’m not that strong
But it won’t take long
Won’t take long

Someday someone’s gonna love me
The way I wanted you to need me
Someday someone’s gonna take your place
One day I’ll forget about you
you’ll see I won’t even miss you
Someday someday

Right now I know you can tell
I’m down and I’m not doing well
But one day these tears they will all run dry
I won’t have to cry, sweet goodbye

Like the title… my life is in Pink now.
*read between the lines

Searching for a day, a simple life
Among the clouds, the sky is blue
Water, stars falling around at night
My dream, your dream
Dreams come true,
Trying hard
Always follow what’s in your heart
Always listen to what’s inside
Always fly high & don’t come down
And don’t come (down)
Don’t push yourself far over the limit
Push your mind ahead with your spirit
Push it to where you never thought you
could go right
And never come down
You run away from a very stressing life
And take some time to think of you
Try to change the color of your life
My dream, your dream
Dreams come true,
Trying hard
Always follow what’s in your heart
Always listen to what’s inside
Always fly high & don’t come down
And don’t come (down)
Don’t push yourself far over the limit
Push your mind ahead with your spirit
Push it to where you never thought you
could go right
And never come down

With so many buzzwords making their way onto, across, and off the scene before you can say “supercalafragilisticexpi” — okay, before you can say “boo” — you’ve probably already noticed that you need help keeping up with today’s hippest terms. One of the latest to confuse alert readers is metrosexual .

Witness this:

Joe says to Tyrone, “So this… guy , at work today, he calls me a metrosexual at lunch in front of a bunch of people at the coffee machine. I didn’t know what to do!”

“Whatever did you do ?” implored Tyrone, with mock interest in Joe’s latest miniature social crisis.

“Well,” said Joe, taking the cue, “I wasn’t quite sure what he meant. So I says to him, ‘What did you mean?’ But before he can say anything… I’m just filled with this rage, you know?” says Joe.

“So what did you do?” implored Tyrone, this time with genuine interest in his friend’s violent tendencies.

“I don’t wanna tell ya. First, ya gotta tell me what the hell this metrosexual business is about, so’s I’ll know if I done the right thing or not. So spill, brainiac.”

Tyrone considered his response carefully, finally coming up with “Uhh…?”

If a situation like this one has befallen you or someone you know, don’t worry friend, you’re not alone. The term in question is so close to something you firmly identify with, but as with “murse” (or “manbag,” i.e. a man’s purse), that first letter changes everything. So before you go punching some guy in the mouth that you shouldn’t have — or worse, go missin’ out on poppin’ some guy ya shooda (which would probably indicate that you’re not a metrosexual) — how about a little edification, for the road.

what is a metrosexual?

The newly popular media and marketing buzzword seems to mean different things to different people, but in general, a metrosexual :

is a modern, usually single man in touch with himself and his feminine side;
grooms and buffs his head and body, which he drapes in fashionable clothing both at work or before hitting an evening hotspot;
has discretionary income to stay up to date with the latest hairstyles, the newest threads, and the right shaped shoes;
confuses some guys when it comes to his sexuality;
makes these same guys jealous of his success with the ladies — for many metros, to interact with women is to flirt;
impresses the women who enjoy his company with the details that make the man;

Among them:

his appreciation for literature, cinema, or other arts
his flair for cooking
his savoir faire in choosing the perfect wine and music
his eye for interior design

is a city boy or, if living a commute away from downtown, is still urbane, if not rightly urban;
enjoys reading men’s magazines…

who coined the term?

Mark Simpson, a British and outspokenly gay social “commentarist,” first published the term in a 1994 article called “Here Come The Mirror Men,” which ran in Britain’s Independent . The concept was developed thanks to Simpson’s book on masculine identity in a media-driven world, called Male Impersonators: Men Performing Masculinity .

simpson’s strategy

At the time, Simpson was simply chronicling a new male prototype he saw emerging in society. The term has been co-opted in the past few years by fashion companies, though, as a marketing ploy: Give people an identity to strive for, an attractive pigeonhole to squeeze into, and, like sheep, they’ll buy anything associated with it.

In a Salon.com article entitled “Meet The Metrosexual” (July 2003), Simpson said, “old-fashioned (re)productive, repressed, unmoisturized masculinity was being given the pink slip by consumer capitalism. The stoic, self-denying, modest straight male didn’t shop enough — his role was to earn money for his wife to spend — so he had to be replaced by a new kind of man, one less certain of his identity and much more interested in his image… A man, in other words, who is an advertiser’s walking wet dream.”

In a recent interview, Simpson goes on: “Commercially… it makes perfect sense to maintain that metrosexuals are all straight — after all, advertising is trying to persuade as many men as possible to relax their sphincter muscles, cooing in their ear that there’s nothing gay about being f***ed by corporate consumerism. Which, ironically, is true.”

what’s sexuality got to do with it?

If Mark Simpson is gay, does that mean metrosexuals are too? Most current references seem to peg metros as hetero, but in Simpson’s original definition, orientation was unimportant. Simpson clarified this point in an interview with Russia’s OM Magazine , explaining, “Metrosexuality is in fact the end of ’sexuality’.” He goes on to say that when it comes to metros, sexuality “is utterly immaterial because the metrosexual has taken himself as his own love object and pleasure as his sexual aim. Desire in the metrosexual has been uncoupled, or at least irretrievably loosened, from reproduction and gender — and reattached to commercial signs. Adverts. Images. Icons. Brands.”

In general parlance, to be called metrosexual is not to be called gay, but rather sensitive, chic and cultured.

what are we talking about?

Some of the most commonly labeled metrosexual prototypes include English soccer star David Beckham and screen icons Brad Pitt, Hugh Jackman and Tom Cruise. All these men are as much models as they are sports stars or actors, welcoming the not-so-furtive female gazes like the walking billboards they’ve become.

Signs that metrosexuality has gone mainstream include the alarming popularity of labels like Abercrombie & Fitch, a middlebrow metrosexual fashion option, among straight, beer-drinking frat boys.

By the way, thanks to Mel Gibson’s hip and sensitive character in What Women Want , the movie could answer its titular query with “Metrosexuals, that’s what!” Meanwhile, Fight Club is about an ostensibly testosterone-imbued movement — bare-knuckle fighting turning to hooliganism in the name of social protest — that ironically uses Brad “six-pack” Pitt as its “gorgeous” leader in a narrative that more closely resembles a feature-length glossy men’s magazine fashion shoot than a movie.

so what are you?

In case you’re counting, this ain’t the first label referring to guys who fall short of the beer-drinking, fart-lighting prototype. To clarify, a few others you may have heard include:

SNAG (Sensitive New Age Guy): A guy that women like to talk to like one of their own, and find attractive because they can. Refers more to sensitivity, without the narcissism and preening associated with metrosexuality.

Renaissance Man: An older term referring to the early modern era, when ancient scientific and artistic knowledge was revisited in a flurry of creation. Refers to a well-rounded, sophisticated, worldly individual with interests in many areas and expertise in several. Think of artist-engineer Leonardo da Vinci.

As any donut shop drive-thru clerk, bowling pin monkey, or anyone else occupying a highly technical field knows, you should leave the tough, dangerous work to the professionals. That is where I, your trained, vigilant lexicographer comes in, fellow struggler, to guide you through the maze that is 21st century English.

metrosexual is quite a capacious term. Others you may not have heard seem to zero in on one or a few aspects of the male persona. Here are a few other terms you might want to add to your growing lexicon:

Primp: A very well groomed guy who always has women around, but never seems to go for any one in particular. Behind his back, people speculate about his sexuality. More of a “straight gay guy” than a “gay straight guy,” to use Sex and the City terminology.

Martha Studly: The guy who has a set of variously sized throw pillows that not only match each other, complement the living room upholstery and decor concept (that’s right, concept !), but accent the next room’s assemblage as well. Hey, if it impresses the ladies, then “that’s a good thing.”

Skexual: A male or female whose sexuality — and sometimes even sex — is so impossible to determine that s/he just seems sketchy from the get-go. Think “Pat” from Saturday Night Live .

metro this

In the end, if you’ve read this article to this point, then you’re probably curious enough about the phenomenon to qualify as a metrosexual. Now, is that worth poppin’ some guy in the mouth for?

For starters, being labeled a “fashion victim” is not a good thing. Most fashion enthusiasts use the expression to criticize a man’s dressing style; however, the term takes on different meanings when referring to different people. So what exactly does a fashion victim look like? Read on to find out.

what is a fashion victim?

Below are three definitions of the term “fashion victim.”

The first definition comes from Karin Eldor, a fellow fashion correspondent at AskMen.com. She describes a fashion victim as “someone who takes all the trends of a given time and ends up looking like a store mannequin; in a word, absurd.”

The second one is courtesy of a friend of mine, who I consider a sleek dresser. To her, a fashion victim is someone who:

a- only purchases brand-name apparel;
b- is a compulsive shopper;
c- will only consider wearing an item that is “the latest trend,” regardless of whether he can pull it off or not.

I found a third definition on a fashion website while researching the expression. The definition states that a fashion victim is “someone who buys an outfit that is perfectly in style, but when he wears it, he looks perfectly ridiculous.”

my definition

According to yours truly, the term “fashion victim” encompasses all of the above and more. A fashion victim is someone who wants to be trendy so badly that he’ll buy whatever the fashion authorities claim is stylish (at the moment) and then combine it awkwardly, giving him an over-the-top style and making him stick out like a sore thumb… not a good thing.

If you spotted a fashion victim on the street this summer, he’d be wearing a pink or yellow T-shirt, white knee-length pants with a pastel colored belt, white and pink flip-flops, and a pair of metallic shields (those sunglasses that look like protective eye gear). The lesson? If you want to look cool, don’t overdo it.

A fashion victim is also someone who can’t put himself together, whether his threads are worth $50 or $5,000, because he tries so hard to look hip. Don’t get me wrong, looking sharp does require a certain amount of effort, but ultimately, your clothes have to fit right, and suit your style, image and personality. Remember, it’s not about the clothes you wear — it’s about how you wear them.

To make matters worse, a fashion victim usually succumbs to social pressure. A good example is someone who catches David Beckham on the Late Show and suddenly feels the urge to go shopping and buy the same ripped jeans, navy blazer and pointy crocodile leather shoes, because Becks looked pretty cool during his interview. Fashion victims are also likely to purchase an expensive suit just because a slick salesman tells them “it’s all the rage this season,” without even paying attention to how the shoulders fit.

avoid being a fashion victim

Now that you have a better grasp of the concept, here are a couple of pointers to help you avoid being or becoming a fashion victim.

Always be yourself
Wear what you think looks nice, not what others believe is trendy. You should always feel comfortable with what you’re wearing, so stick to items that suit your personality and regular style, while keeping the occasion and setting in mind.

Chances are that if you feel people staring at you every time you wear that “trendy” puffy shirt, or you trip occasionally while wearing your pointy shoes, it’s probably because they’re not for you. The same goes for flashy colors: if you’re not comfortable wearing fuchsia, then don’t.

Less is more
Repeat after me: I won’t overdo it. That’s right, you don’t have to wear every single trendy item you own all at once. My suggestion is to buy several trendy pieces every season, and mix and match them with the basics in your wardrobe. It’s a cost-effective, safe way to look your best every day.

Maintain balance
Keep a good balance of basic and trendy clothing in your wardrobe. In other words, half your wardrobe should not consist of trendy clothes, or worse, clothes that are out of style.

Before you decide to purchase a new item, ask yourself if you are buying it because it’s “in style” or because you genuinely like it. In addition, when it comes to designer goods, ask yourself if you would buy the garment if it didn’t have the Lacoste logo on the front pocket. In the end, if you don’t really like it, you probably won’t be comfortable wearing it and are therefore better off not buying it.

Don’t be a sucker for brand names
Another good tip is to avoid referring to your clothes by their designer labels (i.e. “my Boss belt” or “my Diesel Jeans”). By dissociating the item from its manufacturer, you will condition yourself to look at the item itself rather than be swayed by brand names.

Don’t be a slave to the media
Don’t base your look solely on what you see in magazines and on TV. Celebrities and models often overdo trends for attention, and their flashy attire will likely not translate well for you, in the real world.

Avoid the Zoolander effect
Finally, don’t suck in your cheeks to look chiseled and never wear your sunglasses when the sun’s not out — yes, that goes for nightclubs too. Hope this helps.

Until next time, keep on stylin’ and don’t be a fashion victim.

44th wednesday of the year…
8:44 pm
33 days before CHRISTMAS
40 days before the NEW YEAR
34 days before i left for _ _ _ _ _ _

Time flies so fast…
Parang bullet train
Madami akong mami-miss…
Yung mga nakasanayang gawin…
Tulad ng pag-pasok sa opisina (ng late, pero walang absent)
Mga makuklulit na kaibigan
Mga kinukulit na crush hehehehehe
Mga EX na biglang nawawala napupunta sa kandungan ng iba (pero happy ako sa kanila)

Im sure kung ano man ang mangyari sa akin sa aking pupuntahan…
Masosorpresa ako…

Sa inyong lahat na naging bahagi ng aking buhay… kita kits tayo

Love is for Singing

(Danny)
LOVE IS FOR SINGING THIS LITTLE TUNE
LOVE IS FOR RHYMING ODD THINGS AND MOON
LOVE IS FOR WRITING SONGS THAT END IN JUNE
LOVE IS FOR KNOWING I’LL SEE YOU SOON

(APO)
LOVE IS FOR WRITING SONGS WITH MUSHY LINES
LOVE IS FOR SINGING THESE LINES IN RHYME
LOVE IS FOR MAKING MEMORIES OF TIME
LOVE IS FOR KNOWING YOU’LL SOON BE MINE

(Kids)
LOVE IS A SILLY, SILLY THINGS
THAT YOU’LL NEVER THINK OF DOING
(Kids & APO)
AND ALL IN A SUDDEN LITTLE THINGS
HAVE BIGGER MEANINGS

(APO & Kids)
IT’S GETTING UP AT NIGHT (GETTING UP AT NIGHT)
& CLIMBING UP A TREES SO HIGH (UP AT TREES SO HIGH)
AND THEN YOU TRY AND TOUCH THE SKY
AND YOU ASK WHY, WHY, WHY
IT’S GETTING UP AT NIGHT (GETTING UP AT NIGHT)
AND CLIMBING UP A TREE SO HIGH (UP AT TREES SO HIGH)
AND THEN YOU TRY AND TOUCH THE SKY
AND YOU ASK …..

(APO)
LOVE IS FOR ANSWERING THESE CRAZY, CRAZY QUESTIONS
LOVE IS FOR GETTING TO THE ANSWERS THROUGH EMOTIONS
‘CAUSE LOVE IS A WONDER
AND ITS A THRILL WHEN YOU’RE UNDER
ITS SPELL YOUR HEART BEATING THUNDER
BECAUSE SHE’S THERE ooh.. hooh…
LOVE IS A WONDER
AND ITS A THRILL WHEN YOU’RE UNDER
ITS SPELL YOUR HEART BEATING THUNDER
BECAUSE SHE’S THERE

CODA:
(Kids & APO)

(LOVE IS FOR SINGING)
(THIS LITTLE TUNE)
(LOVE IS FOR KNOWING)
(I’LL SEE YOU SOON)
LET ME TELL YOU ‘BOUT LOVE
(LOVE IS FOR SINGING)
(THIS LITTLE TUNE)
LET ME TELL YOU ‘BOUT LOVE
(LOVE IS FOR KNOWING)
(I’LL SEE YOU SOON)
LET ME TELL YOU ‘BOUT LOVE

They say there are things better left unsaid.

The question is … Why?

- trying to be nice to other person involve
- ‘di mo kayang sabihin ng harap-harapan
- wala lang

And daming rason why cant we say it…

And daming questions na malabo sa atin

And the truth of the matter is MASAKIT ang iwan ka ng ‘di mo alam

On the other hand mas Okay na rin yung ‘di mo alam kung bakit, kasi baka mas masakit pag-nalaman mo ang katotohanan.

Hay naku…. why nga ba tayo naiinlove, nasasaktan, umaasa, nagagalit, umiiwas, natatakot, nagtatanong….. siguro ang totong answer is ‘di natin alam kaya maaring better left unsaid kasi in the first place wala pala tayong sasabihn… make sense!

11:07pm
IA office

clueless…..
raining hard…..
walang taxi na masakyan…..
walang friends available para maka-gimik…..
someone special #1 manhid (darn)…..
someone special #2 malaki ang problema…..
someone special #3 bulag na tanga pa……..
someone special #4 (sigh) kailan kaya dadating?

sabi nga ni Josh Groban “to where you are”
sabi naman ni Carly Simon “coming around again”
sabi naman ni Jason Mraz “the boys gone”
sabi naman ni Rob Thomas “when the heartache ends”

ang sabi ko naman “BAHALA NA SI BATMAN”

life is beautiful! the hell with them….. i’m here to enjoy life to the fullest!